2nd September, me talking to 1000 people in London – people loving it, people signing up, friends supporting me, my children being there for me, tears of joy and tears of laughter, stories of life and memories of sadness… and as the success and emotion moves my heart and warms my soul – there it is… the little nagging niggly voice…. there was one person that said you could have done one thing differently…. ????? and the self flagellation starts…
maybe you have the same ‘problem’ – aah – challenge…. I call it the black-spot-syndrom. you have this whole canvas of pure white and there is a tiny black spot – and you obsess about it. you walk into a room with 1000 ceiling lights – and 1 is broken – and you can’t stop seeing it. you do a great job and get 99 things right – yet your ‘little voice’ keeps pointing out the ‘1 thing that you could have done better’. thank you very much!
Sounds familiar? then you need little voice management like I do. It will not go away, but there are a few ways to efficiently learn to deal with it…. I have learned different techniques from different people – from Tony Robbins to Harv Eker to Blair Singer to my spirtual guru of my yoga days…. one thing they all say – you can’t fight it. you got to deal with it. Tony says ‘dance with your fear’, Harv says ‘thank you for sharing’ and Blair has written a whole book with simple strategies to deal with our little voice.
Don’t focus on it, forgive yourself, put it into perspective, talk to others about it, but under no circumstances – take it too seriously.
talk soon – please put 9th October in your diary… I will tell you why very soon
Daniel
PS: When I was in the US a few weeks ago, we learned a great technique: ” ‘name of friend’, I love and respect you and don’t give a d**n what you think about me”
It’s important we don’t make our mood or actions dependent on what others think….
I was looking and searching all my life – with the uncomfortable notion that I am not enough and somewhere out there is the missing ingredient to success. Finally – after almost 43 years – I have the answer. And it won’t come as a surprise that I found it in Manchester. The big events in life are always serendipitous (cool word: had to look up meaning and spelling and it means “lucky in making unexpected and fortunate discoveries”). So here it is. Two secrets and life long questions answered in one.
Well, you will have to watch the 1 minute video. In case you are wondering why I look the way I look? It was 7:40 in the morning and the sun was right in my eyes.
to your success
Daniel
PS: I am looking forward to meeting up very soon…. I have my birthday coming up in October and I am planning to invite all of you… I had a great idea while reading the millionaire code. I let you know soon so that you can make arrangements…
For someone who is not too keen on water it seems I am spending a whole lot of time on it… LOL. I went down to Bath to meet with James and Licia last weekend. I had my daughter with me and finally managed to meet up with Martin Roberts (of BBC fame) and his family. He asked me months ago to help him with the internet marketing of his website and courses and invited me to spend time on his barge in Bath…
We had a great time but I couldn’t help recording a ‘lesson of life’ video for you.
This one is about lag time. You see (and that is something I learned from Jim Rohn) what you do in life has normally a delayed effect or lag time before you see the consequences. Needless to say if you improve e.g. your eating habits it will be sometime before you actually get the benefit. And of course the same is true the other way round. Strangely enough though in business people expect overnight results…
When I was steering the 65 foot barge the time of making the adjustment to actually the boat responding reminded of that…
Two more things came to mind… I didn’t know that you were driving on the right side of the river, not the left and everything in life and business is better when you know the rules. (you might choose not to play by them, but knowing them is a good thing most of the times). Lastly I realised when we came to a lock that most things in life and business require a team and that it is important to play and work together – even (and I am talking to the lone wolves out there – you know who you are!) if it just to be able to share the successes and have a little winge sometimes…
to your success
Daniel
PS: By the way, before I forget – Practice makes PERMANENT, not PERFECT. If you got a bad teacher and practice the wrong move, you’ll never be perfect… so choose your teachers carefully ….
when I jumped into the rowing boat at Cliveden (beautiful National Trust property in Bucks) I realised that it was EXACTLY like life…. and how you do one thing is how you do anything. First of all I learned there is the ’stroke’ and then the ‘recovery’. And they say that the best rowers spend more time in recovery and less ‘in the water’… another thing that is obvious is that using the oar is using leverage… (try using your hands instead and see how you go . Next is that you actually have the back towards where you are going so you need a team or partner to look out for you…. and help you enjoy the journey .
Gorgeous day, enjoy the 2 and a bit minute long video. Please let me know your thoughts and comment below….
it’s been a while. and a lot has changed. life moves at such a pace – it’s only 7 months ago I started MyInternetMarketingTutor.com! I have recorded a 6 minute video this morning with some insights about life, business and myself which is just right from the heart.
I am actually getting tired of some of what happens in my industry. so much hype and BS… I sometimes don’t even want to go on stage – but then I think if I don’t go on then there is no chance I can work with people and teach them and they will most likely buy someone else’s course who cares less and buggers off to somewhere far away after the event….
anyway. went to the gym this morning and learned a few lessons of life. Affirm the truth if you want to make progress. Success is subjective and then later on – being stupid is not a problem (as long as you are not being stupid all the time)…
Watch the video below, give me feedback or comments please.
I teach. I teach internet marketing. And I learned a lot in the last 3 years. But I only realise now that people don’t care how much I know. They don’t. All they care about – and rightly so – is themselves and their dream. They want to make money, in most cases, and that quickly and without the pain.
Now I know after looking at many products, my own included, that we make it too hard for people to succeed. Not on purpose, but most people looking at internet marketing don’t want to learn all about internet marketing – they just want to make money.
I realise that trying to teach them product creation, conversion strategies and membership sites (just to name a few) is for 1-2% of people only… most want the results only…what to do?
People want to learn about IM, and so they should, but along side their job to learn their is sooo much to learn and it changes all the time.
What we need is a EARN as you LEARN model, where we teach the most important tasks first (Traffic!) and then focus on marketing. Then pay people high affiliate commissions (50%) on coninuity models of education so they get paid as they learn more. If they choose to, they can then apply the traffic and marketing skills to their niche or business and learn about product creation.
This is what I want to do. I am working on it right now. Make more people more money and make some along the way as well
I am writing this as a guy who started 3 years ago to form a dream about speaking on a stage…. I asked a friend if I coud have 10 minutes to speak to his networking club people… I did that a few times. In February 2006 Dwayne made a joking remark while I was doing my 10 minute talk… he said: “when is your one-day seminar gonna be?”.
I didn’t have a one day seminar… until then I suppose. I remember preparing for months. I remember being so worried about not having enough to say, enough to share, worried about not being enough.
that is how it all began. I remember interviewing Armand Morin and some other Internet Marketing greats in September 2007 in London. I went on the stage in the evening and I told myself. In 2 years I will be on stage with them!
The ’secret’ – as they call it – is actually quite obvious. If you set an intention and work towards it – it will manifest. (I actually send an email to Rhonda telling her she should call it the ‘obvious’ but I suspect it wouldn’t have sold so many copies
so why am I telling you all this and why is this post called comfort zone stretch?
Because this September, just 2 years after interviewing some of the big guys… I will be on stage as one of the speakers with them… I am not scared, not a lot at least… they made 30 Million $$$, I made some as well….
I can only be myself and there is always more to learn…. so until very soon…
I don’t know if you can relate, and maybe it’s just me, but I had for so many years (39 and a half to be precise) a whole list of great ‘reasons’ (or excuses) why I couldn’t do well in life. being austrian (I still am of course, but I don’t see that as a reason anymore… thanks Arnie), being in a religious group, my relationships…and so on.
Now that they are gone I am faced with the freedom that means no more excuses… what am I to do? settle for what? any advice accepted
1st April. Taking a day out to look at what I have done in the last 3 months… and more importantly – what I want to do in the next 90 days… I suppose the simple view is do more of what I loved, do less of what I didn’t like so much.
I did well: trainings, public speaking, setting up membership site, platinum group, increase recurring monies and big pay days, party for friends, new friends, work IN my business, JVs and strategic relationships
I didn’t do so well: outsourcing and delegation, balancing work/life, body and diet habits, look after my son and daughter, spend time away from work, maintain friendships, work ON my business
I have spend some time with business people who are further down the line than me and I try to learn as I bubble along… what is weird though that I hardly ever feel I achieved anything significant in the last two and a half years – because I focus on all the things I still want to do.
This is why I love doing events – that is a great place to get feedback for me. I can see people breaking through, I tell my story and it inspires people! I love it.
so back to ‘work’ – it’s the 1st April. What have you done in the last 90 days and where are you heading? Discuss.
now, just some food for thought. If you are burning the candle on both ends but are in your flame, would you be using your wax? mmh. anyway, what I am trying to say is that you can live as intensely as you like, if you do what is your flow, it will not cause you too much of a strain or take away your natural energy.
I have been experimenting (not on purpose, more like a moth to the flame kind of thing) with this and if you do anything you want, just checking your ‘inner compass from time to time, life has an amazing amount of colour, vibrancy, flavour and richness! this can only be experienced if you audaciaously throw away the fear of rejection, play full out, don’t worry about the future or the past and literally pretend that the ageing process has only affected your body…
Enough of my February musings… I have a few weekend speaking gigs ahead and looking forward to some more buzz on stage…. check out my events page here…
speak soon, keep tweeting, life is for living and living is…. you got it
oh, did I mention I finally went full time into being who I am? (given up my job after it being just ridiculous)
Daniel
PS: thanks to the following human beings for their light and flavour . Acronym fun for all to share: LDW, AGM, (they are easy you double surname individuals…), GP, JR, MO….
so choose your teachers carefully ….