Last weekend I was one of the speakers at Mark Anastasi’s List Building Event. I don’t know why, but I tortured myself for literally weeks before the event, didn’t sleep properly, had bad stomach on the day…. and then it went really well.
Why is that? I asked myself. Why do I always get in such a ‘mind-frick’ before going on stage when I can be almost certain it’ll be ok? Here are my guesses. Fear of failure, fear of public humiliation, fear of embarrassment, fear of loss.
Not a nice list, I know. Talk about limiting beliefs! I have worked on my ‘inner game’ for years now and still these thinking patterns keep trying to stop me (and many times succeed!).
But like with all good tips and theory, sometimes when it comes to it, old habits die hard. And that includes – of course – thinking habits!
So how did it go then last weekend? Well – it was amazing! People loved it and I loved it too. We offered a proper coaching programme, as I believe that a weekend course – how ever well executed – is too much in too little time for most.
YourInternetBuddies is going well, we are about to launch the revamped members’ site and looking forward to seeing you at one of our events very soon.
Many of you will know that I have spent my last 2 Christmases in a Lebanese restaurant – alone… anyway – I wanted to make sure it’s not the same this year and I booked me and my girlfriend in with my friends James and Licia in Bath… I actually came down a few days earlier and we did some very useful review and planning… on Christmas Day we did a little walk around the Royal Crescent area and recorded this little video for you.
I would really ask you to spend a bit of time to do that yourself. Review your 2009 and a little plan for 2010. I don’t want to do that in a heavy way, but just checking what you didn’t like about it 2009 and how to not repeat it in 2010. So if you want 2010 to be different and want to grow as a person – just let yourself know… once you have a little plan – it will be a lot easier to achieve your goals.
as Jim Rohn used to say – ‘Have your own plan or you will become part of someone else’s plan…’
Hi, just a quick ‘news flash’ about next week’s Wednesday… (28/10/2009!)
I will be down in Pinewood studios being interviewed for SWAT.tv… they are a online TV station (they are also on sky I think) and they have thousands of viewers… cool!
On the same day – (why is it always on the same day – I got nothing else on next week!) I will be speaking at the yes! group in London…. you can book your ticket for £15 here: http://www.yesgroup.org.uk/index.php?option=com_registrationpro&Itemid=138
weird is that I wanted to speak at the yes! group for over a year… I applied and asked and – NOTHING… then – one day (last week!) I had a reply to one of my broadcast emails (the one which said ‘Why working from home SUCKS …) and they asked ME to speak!
The guys from the yes group titled my talk ‘ From Loser to Inspirational Winner’. LOL. I have 45 minutes and my main outcome is to get everyone there inspired and to believe they can do whatever they want.
I hope to see you there, guys…
Daniel
PS: Here is a video I did yesterday in Manchester… I have a unusual ‘family’ connection with Manchester… and – it’s not what you think (l0l)
I still owe you a update on my birthday and an apology for not doing the birthday boat party for the children’s foundation…
With the launch of Yibbies and the two 3 day workshops coming up I just felt I couldn’t do it justice….
So instead I decided to take my first in many working breaks abroad, embracing the internet lifestyle. I am here with my business partner James and both our partners….
check out the video below and please note: this is NOT a watch me I am so cool I am a millionaire BS…. it’s a concept I would love many more people to try and see how it feels for them…. for me? it feels great!
Btw, the video was done with the new ipod nano… love it… check it out in an apple store near you!
as always, please let me have your thoughts and feedback in the comment section below….
thanks a million for all your wonderful and heartfelt words and your support…. what a ride (and I haven’t even been in the car yet!). I had an amazing time on stage and when I was announced, I really did celebrate! What a cool day it was! So I was thinking how can you benefit from my win?
First of all … if I CAN DO IT – THEN YOU CAN DO IT!
Secondly: I wanted to share a marketing lesson that might come in handy. How did I get so many votes? I don’t know ALL the reasons, but I have recorded a video where I comment on the powerpoint I used and what I did in there to get connection with the people in the audience.
It’s all explained in there…. from opening loops and using metaphors to damaging admissions and using humor. I also create my own currency for the day – and I know it worked because people used it in their conversations….
I have to admit I don’t even know at this stage if I want to keep the car… it’s just so not me…. maybe I drive it for a day when the sun shines….
On a more personal note – this win seems like I have broken a spell or a curse or something. I never won a competition in my life since I was 9 years old and I have PROOF that I am deserving of silly cool things like shiny sports cars…. may this be this beginning of something big and adventurous.
There is also a weird thought pattern I witnessed. I thougt people (Dan B, Marcus who let me re-arrange my slot for Sunday, Rob who had to travel down on Saturday,…) didn’t want me to win and would make life difficult…. but they were all so amazing. I was surprised at the amount of good will I must have accumulated over the years….
So here is the video…. I am sure you will get something out of it…
as always, please leave your comments and suggestions below
I was looking and searching all my life – with the uncomfortable notion that I am not enough and somewhere out there is the missing ingredient to success. Finally – after almost 43 years – I have the answer. And it won’t come as a surprise that I found it in Manchester. The big events in life are always serendipitous (cool word: had to look up meaning and spelling and it means “lucky in making unexpected and fortunate discoveries”). So here it is. Two secrets and life long questions answered in one.
Well, you will have to watch the 1 minute video. In case you are wondering why I look the way I look? It was 7:40 in the morning and the sun was right in my eyes.
to your success
Daniel
PS: I am looking forward to meeting up very soon…. I have my birthday coming up in October and I am planning to invite all of you… I had a great idea while reading the millionaire code. I let you know soon so that you can make arrangements…
I am writing this as a guy who started 3 years ago to form a dream about speaking on a stage…. I asked a friend if I coud have 10 minutes to speak to his networking club people… I did that a few times. In February 2006 Dwayne made a joking remark while I was doing my 10 minute talk… he said: “when is your one-day seminar gonna be?”.
I didn’t have a one day seminar… until then I suppose. I remember preparing for months. I remember being so worried about not having enough to say, enough to share, worried about not being enough.
that is how it all began. I remember interviewing Armand Morin and some other Internet Marketing greats in September 2007 in London. I went on the stage in the evening and I told myself. In 2 years I will be on stage with them!
The ’secret’ – as they call it – is actually quite obvious. If you set an intention and work towards it – it will manifest. (I actually send an email to Rhonda telling her she should call it the ‘obvious’ but I suspect it wouldn’t have sold so many copies
so why am I telling you all this and why is this post called comfort zone stretch?
Because this September, just 2 years after interviewing some of the big guys… I will be on stage as one of the speakers with them… I am not scared, not a lot at least… they made 30 Million $$$, I made some as well….
I can only be myself and there is always more to learn…. so until very soon…
I’ll be honest, this year I didn’t even bother. The arbitrary date of 31st December didn’t tickle me enough to aim for some life changes I hope will be brought about by osmosis, magic and alcohol. Instead I just clarified my vision, spend some time on looking back (mainly to see what I didn’t want to do again) and then forced myself to enjoy some family time. It worked.
I have worked on some major changes to my business since then, mainly to do with systems, structure, attempts to outsource my life and being able to scale up my efforts this year. Focusing on my core competencies and offering more value to more people.
The year is kicking off well. Speaking at Whitney’s event at the end of Jan and 2 bootcamps in Feb and April. I guess, after 2 and a half years of doing this, the word spreads… I get invited to talk. Cool.
anyway, if you want to catch up with in the next few weeks, check out www.YourInternetMarketingTutor.com it’s a one day training course at £97 (if you use this link). Also check out the cool video Stephen has done for me…
anyway, let’s catch up soon and let me know what you are upto in 2009
So, yesterday’s preview event with Alistair Cooper was a great success. He delivered an outstanding talk on the ’state of the property nation’ and revealed his strategies for 2008. (www.ThePlanningGame.com)
On a Internet Marketing and general marketing note though I wanted to share the significance of a preview event if your main product is a one or two day seminar or workshop.
From my own experience: make them pay to come. Even if it’s £15 or £20. It has many reasons:
1) you actually make money on the night after paying all your cost.
2) you avoid the freebie seekers. And most importantly
3) you get a committment from the attendees, however small. They have now spent money with you and they are in the funnel. You moved them from a prospect to a customer.
