Just Another Speaking Event? (I WISH…)
Last weekend I was one of the speakers at Mark Anastasi’s List Building Event. I don’t know why, but I tortured myself for literally weeks before the event, didn’t sleep properly, had bad stomach on the day…. and then it went really well.
Why is that? I asked myself. Why do I always get in such a ‘mind-frick’ before going on stage when I can be almost certain it’ll be ok? Here are my guesses. Fear of failure, fear of public humiliation, fear of embarrassment, fear of loss.
Not a nice list, I know. Talk about limiting beliefs! I have worked on my ‘inner game’ for years now and still these thinking patterns keep trying to stop me (and many times succeed!).
How are you dealing with stuff like this? I have recorded a talk called fear-flip-fundamentals some time ago with James some time ago. You can get the free version of this member’s report here.
But like with all good tips and theory, sometimes when it comes to it, old habits die hard. And that includes – of course – thinking habits!
So how did it go then last weekend? Well – it was amazing! People loved it and I loved it too. We offered a proper coaching programme, as I believe that a weekend course – how ever well executed – is too much in too little time for most.
YourInternetBuddies is going well, we are about to launch the revamped members’ site and looking forward to seeing you at one of our events very soon.
to your success
Daniel Wagner
February 3rd, 2010 at 11:12 pm
Hi Daniel,
It was great to meet you and you were truly fantastic on stage. Without a doubt one of my favourites. Love your honest and straight shooting approach. Great content too!
Stuart Ross
February 4th, 2010 at 12:43 am
Very cool… was great meeting you as well. You are almost as good looking as in your videos…
I watched some of your videos and your dog is lovely, but…
looking forward to meeting up soon. I am sure there is something we can do together apart from making lots of money – which is a good start I guess…
Daniel
February 4th, 2010 at 12:30 am
Hi Daniel,
You are a lovely man. I wish all people were as real as you. Although now whenever I picture you, its of you in a loincloth! No, but seriously, you were great. I was the lady that confided in you how bad things were financially and you gave me a little advice.
You’ve got a big heart Daniel and may God continue to bless you.
Valerie Campbell
February 4th, 2010 at 12:41 am
He Valerie… I remember you well.
Thanks for your kind words. Please make sure you subscribe to my blog and let’s stay in touch.
There is a lot you can learn for free and get started right away…
looking forward to meeting you soon
Daniel
February 4th, 2010 at 11:49 am
Guys thanks for the audio.
My take on fear. We usually push the fear away so we dont have to deal with it. Usually we feel an energy somewhere in the body, could be the stomach chest etc. That energy is the body telling you it has negative energy and it wants to get rid of it.
Subconsciously we say no to the fear, push it down which means we ultimately keep it.
Ask youself…could I say yes to this fear?
The answer is a decision “YES”. Be courageous, feel courageous and ask again could I say yes to this fear? Your decision is “YES”…keep going and you will feel lighter, you may even start laughing
Then grade that fear on a scale of 1 to 10 with 10 being the strongest. So for example it could be a 7, ask youself if you could get bigger than a 7? After saying yes, grade the energy again and ask yourself if you can get bigger than it again. Keep doing this til you get to a 0 or 1 and then try to bring the fear up again, make it as strong as you can and then do the process again…
Give it try it works…
Matt
February 7th, 2010 at 12:19 am
Hello Daniel,
I was at the seminar and I was very impressed.
Greetings from the Netherlands
Petra
February 14th, 2010 at 4:15 pm
Daniel,
even though perfectpetskin missed out!! Thanks to the team for a fantastic day & see u again shortly.
You needn’t have lost all that sleep. Your talk was real & down2earth, as a result of which I’m now one of your Platinum students. I look forward to the next 90 days! RIOT yesterday was a riot
Tumi